How many times have we all said or heard the phrase “karma is a bitch”? How many of us have stopped to think about what that actually means? The more you delve into the meaning, the more the phrase seems to evolve.
I think it’s safe to say most of us associate “karma is a bitch” as a phrase we use when we want to see the universe deliver revenge on someone who has wronged us. We look forward to karma in these instances and eagerly await its arrival hoping to have front row seats when karma finally delivers. Some of us even feel the need to assist karma. After all, what a better feeling than to be part of the revenge plan on someone who has hurt you or a loved one. I’m slightly embarrassed to admit that I was once one of these people. That is, until one day I read something that made me reconsider my stance on karma and revenge. It went something like this; if you try to intervene with karma, such as in the form of revenge, then karma will step back sensing you have done its job; therefore, karma will not step in. Reading that made me reevaluate my thoughts and reconsider my actions. Could it be, after all this time and in many situations, I was playing the role of karma?! My initial thought after reading this was karma can surely do a significantly better job at payback, so I should step back and watch to see how this plays out in future scenarios. To my surprise something else happened, as I started living my life and letting karma handle situations for me, I became happier. Not for the reason I originally thought (I assumed my happiness would come from relishing in watching karma be delivered). No, I actually started living happier because I was walking away from negative situations that would have previously consumed my thoughts. Instead of plotting and planning, I just let things go. Once I was able to release myself of such negative thoughts and emotions and just walk away, I noticed so much more of my mental space become available for a more positive outlook and productive mindset. Honestly, once this happened I didn’t even feel the need to be witness to what karma would do to those who I had previously felt deserved it. There were times I would even have friends come to me with information on what bad luck or karma a person who had wronged me was experiencing. Instead of joining in the conversation and enjoying the news of their karma (as I once would have), I chose not to hear it. I realized it simply doesn’t matter in my life.
For years I thought I lived my life free from the wrath of karma. I would like to say I am a good person. I try to treat everyone with kindness and respect, so what would karma have to do with me? Then I realized, for as good of a person as I like to think I am, I also have my flaws. For years I worked in a highly dramatic and often times catty environment, and as much as I would like to think I was above much of the bad behavior, I would sometimes find myself sucked into the drama and negativity. That’s when I noticed for me, karma would tend to come in the same way I dished it out. You know those times when you judge someone and say “I would NEVER…”? For me saying “I would never” has been like an open invitation for karma to put me through a similar struggle so I can understand the point of view of the person I was so harshly judging. I’m sure most of you, if you really think about it, can come up with similar examples.
Today if I’m in a conversation that turns to gossip or goes in a negative direction about others, I am able to say “no thank you” to participating in that conversation. I will often say to the person trying to bring up gossip or negativity “you better be careful, karma is a bitch”. This happened recently with a friend (who also believes in karma) she had seen something on FB that she couldn’t resist making a snarky comment about. I said “uh oh, karma…”. She said, “I know, I just have to say this anyways”. She said, “The worst karma I will get for this is maybe a broken hair tie when I need one”. What do you think happened about 2 weeks later?! You guessed it! I got a text from her saying how miserable she was because it was hot, she was sweaty, and all of her hair was sticking to her! She didn’t even realize she had called her own karma until I reminded her of our conversation. As minor as this may seem to some, you have to understand her and I have spent an unusually large amount of time talking about karma and our spiritual growth. We both felt this was the only evidence we needed to prove we are on the right track in both of our spiritual journeys. If karma could speak, it certainly said 1000 words that day.
Something I have now come to realize is that the purpose of karma is not to hurt people or to “be a bitch”. Karma is more like a mother. Karma is there to teach us a lesson when we are misguided. When we say or do things that intentionally or unintentionally hurt others. It is karma that steps in to try to show us the error of our ways. It’s like if you misbehaved when you were young and your mom got the phone call before you even got home that day (if your mom was anything like my mom that is). Your mom would be there waiting for you, she would decide what punishment fit the crime. Mom’s don’t punish their children to be a bitch. Mom’s use punishment to deter their children from repeating a bad behavior. Not only is punishment a deterrent, but it hopefully comes with a lesson on WHY not to act a certain way again. What happens when you don’t learn your lesson the first time? Karma (just as your mother would) will try to get the point across again, the next time much louder and more clearer. I believe each time it will get progressively worse until you finally figure it out and learn the lesson you were meant to learn the first time. I can’t be sure, but I would guess that if you miss the message altogether and continue to think negatively and spread negativity, you will never truly find the happiness you were intended. I’m sure you have all been around those people. The ones who are so negative that when you leave their company you feel they have drained the energy from you. You realize nothing and no one will ever make them happy. They missed the messages along the way.
I believe these life lessons (karma) are part of our spiritual journey to prepare us for what’s next, whatever that may be. You may still hear me say “karma is a bitch” to get my point across, but I certainly do not believe that. I believe karma is a blessing if you choose to open up your mind and listen.